HELMET - Take care of HEAD

After graduating in business Commerce\economics & getting International certification in I.T., I got a decent job in a I.T. company. I had no pressure from my family to get married as they are all aware of my affair with Shilpa.

Unaware of my love-dovie, during caste functions, most of my relatives pull me over to show me girls so that they can convince me for marrying their daughter\relatives and happens to meet this girl under such arranged marriage system for my cousin's & I also started liking this girl. Unfortunately it was my first such experience of seeing a girl & getting rejected - outright on my face. Later, out of curiosity, I asked my relative as to why she rejected me? My relative gave me a reason that she is expecting to marry a rich man.

I understand that most of the girls want to marry rich guys and It is very unfortunate how men are reduced to price tags. Put the details aside, what that girl was trying to do is an exchange of her “beauty” with “money”: Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.

However, there’s a deadly problem here, Girls beauty will fade some day, but money will not be gone unless for any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but she can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, whereas she was a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is her only asset, her value would be much worse 15-20 years later.

By the terms we use in Stock Market- every trading has a position so marrying with her is also a “trading position” So if the trade value dropped, we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that she wanted and expected. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision, any assets with great depreciation value will be eithr sold or “leased”.

I....ofcourse moved on in life and got married to a girl....love of my life.

15 years later i.e.years in 2014, on one the signal in Kandivali, I saw the same beautiful lady at a traffic signal with her husband seating on rear seat of their Honda Activa. While on green signal, she was trying to kickstart their scooter because seems like the battery start was not working. I looked out of my newly bought Sedan car and I briefly looked at her. Though she recognized me but still i didnt called her and without any hint of recognition, I moved from her eyes away, far from her... because I prefer to stay safe from such spices of human.

At that moment, after driving a two wheeler for over 25 years, first time in my life I realized the value of a helmet as she was trying to hide her face in it....

So always wear a helmet in your own safety !!!

PICHKARIII

There is no doubt that USA is an expensive country & the civic services are of the best standards.

So this was an incident while we had been just moved to USA in 2019. I had been to Taco Bell for munching its inventive, often whimsical, Mexican-inspired items. While placing an order I happened to see an Maharashtrian look-alike Indian man sitting on other side of table. This man was looking typical Marathi as he had wore Mahi Gold Plated Peshwai Bhik Bali 

Apart from his wife and two children, this man & was also accompanied by his old age father of 70’ age. It look like they were on their holiday in USA as they were sitting with tons of luggage bags.

I could hear a noise of son annoyed & firing his father- left & right. I overheard their discussion & which made me laugh out spontaneously ...

They were traveling on 66 highway, one of the express ways from Washington to other state. This Indian Family were in their car and coincidentally was followed by a Local Police driving at a safe distance. Suddenly this police  saw head of an old man coming out of their window and was vomiting blood. A lady cop took a quick action and inform 911 (The three-digit telephone number "9-1-1" has been designated as the "Universal Emergency Number," for citizens throughout the United States to request emergency assistance. It is intended as a nationwide telephone number and gives the public fast and easy access to a Public Safety Answering Point (PSAP) for help.)

In no time, there appeared an Air Ambulance Helicopter provider utilizes an advanced fleet of jets that are configured as hospital intensive care units as to provide the best care possible. In the meanwhile, the lady police forced their car to park on curbside. 

Looking at Police car & Air Ambulance, these Indian family got scared & could not utter a single word to them. The well trained staff quickly shifted this old man on the stretcher. Oxygen supply started in helicopter itself. Experienced Doctor who also flew in Helicopter started examining him And Sometime later, the old man was declared safe and fit to travel again. 

Kudos to Quick Help and Well Done the Police for their quick action.

But for these services, our Bhau had to cough up USD$ 3000. 

With these unplanned heavy financial charges, this man was in shock and he blasted on his Old Aged Father : "Tichi Ayalaa, kay tumhi pann....Khiḍakīcyā bāhēra guṭakhā khāṇyācī ani pichkari marnya chi kay garaj hoti? “

EVERYDAY IS MOTHERS DAY FOR ME....2021

 My conversion with my maa, THEN & NOW

THEN...

Maa: Beta, I fought with death when I was giving birth to you. I had spent sleepless nights when you were sick and crying. I remembered that I never ate without feeding you first. I bore so many pains to bring you to the stage that you are in today so tell me how will you repay me, Chetu?

ME: Maa, I promise you that When I grow up, I will find a good job and earn lots of money for you so you can enjoy all happiness of this world.

Maa:Your Papa is already doing this and I do not expect this from you too. Also by the time you start earning, I will be old and will not be in need of any worldly luxuries.

so I thought for a while & reply her 

ME: “okay then I will find a pious girl and marry her so she can cook for you and will also take care of you.”

Maa: That is not her duty my Chetu and neither should you marry for that reason. It is not compulsory on her to do any service to me, neither do I expect this from her. Your marriage should be for you only, a companion and a comfort for you as you go through this journey of life.

I didn’t know what to answer her so told her 

ME: “Tell me Maa, how can I repay you then?”

Maa: (With tears in her eyes) Spend quality time with me or call me often when you away from me. As a mother, I only require this much from you while i am alive. 

but when I die, give me your shoulder and burn me with all respect.

Whenever you perform prayers, supplicate for me. 

Give out in charity for me. 

Remember all your good deed will benefit me in hereafter so be good and kind always. 

Fulfill the rights of all those around you. The sleepless nights and pains I took to bring you up, was not a favour to you, my Chetu but was it for my creator. God blessed me with you as a beautiful gift and as a means for me to attain His pleasure. 

Your every good deed becomes my repayment.

So Will you do it my Chetu...?

ME: (Cannot speak and had tears in my eyes)

NOW: 

I lost my Mom 34 year back but all her memories are very well alive in me. After Maa's death, My Papa is playing dual role of father-mother for me. 

While in India, I used to make sure to call Papa every alternate days. I used to make sure to meet him every Sunday to hug him, tight. 

After I moved to USA, I used to call him everyday- just to say HI & How are you....that makes him sooooo happy....

As said by my siblings, everyday evening between 8pm to 9pm, he is awaiting for my call & I make sure to call him toooo...

Because everyday is mothers day for me...